For the next 12 days, I’ll be offering tips to help you connect on a deeper level with those you are close to. We should practice connection daily, but the holidays highlight our need to feel close to those in our inner circle. December 12, marks the first day of the challenge. See below.
Day 1: Today, practice looking people in the eye during conversation, giving the other person your complete attention.
Dr. Furnham notes, “Where, when, and how we look at others are all part of the phenomenon of eye gaze, one of our most important and primitive means of communication.” Eye contact allows you to see the other persons reactions, gestures, and emotional state. Carol Gonman says, “As a general rule, direct eye contact ranging from 30% to 60% of the time during conversation- more when you are listening, less when you are speaking – should make for a more comfortable, productive atmosphere.”
Eye contact also allows the other person to feel seen and feel as though they have your attention. Studies tend to show the greater the eye contact the closer the relationship. Connect today by practicing eye contact.